Divorce

    Throughout this semester I have learned so much about how families work and how to make your family better. I have learned so much about how parents affect their children’s lives. I’ve learned about how the world has changed and how people view marriage and kids. It has been very entertaining to learn about.

The last topic that was discussed this semester was divorce. We had talked about divorce before but this time it was just divorce. Two years after a conflict 70% of people who were divorced find that they could have saved their marriage. They learn that the conflict was not a big as they thought it was in the moment. Two years after men are divorced 70% of them are usually married. However, 62% of these remarriages involve children.

There are several people who have gone through divorces. Many who have had children find that most of the time they have shared custody. This means that they share the kids. However, there is not a way to have the kids fifty-fifty percent of the time. If the kids are going to school usually, they will be with the parent that lives the closest to the school. Most of the time this parent ends up being the mother. After a divorce, the mother will usually talk to the family and move close to the family. This leaves the father living several miles away from them.

There are several things that you should think about when you are dealing with a split family. The first is acceptance. Accept that it will take about two years to reach a sense of normality. Second, the birth parent should take responsibility for doing all the heavy discipline. They should be the parent that grounds the child and the only one that should take a phone away for disciplinary reasons. The third is the new parent should act as a fantastic aunt or uncle. This allows the child to be comfortable. They should try to make things fun. Don’t try to be a replacement for their parent. Try to be their best friend. Lastly, the new couple should spend a lot of time behind closed doors discussing what works and what does not work.

In the end when divorcing you should be very careful with your decisions. You should not try to be so overwhelming for the kids if you are the new parent. Let them adjust to the new situations around you. 

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